By Caroline Harroe (Harmless CEO)
Suicide is a complex and sensitive topic, and the language we use to discuss it matters significantly. Certain terms, once commonly used, are now considered outdated and harmful. They can perpetuate stigma, trivialise the experience of suicide loss survivors, and even contribute to increased risk among vulnerable individuals. It is crucial to understand why these terms are problematic and how we can use language that is both accurate and compassionate.
Unacceptable Terms and Why
- ‘Suicided’: This term implies that suicide is an action done to someone, rather than a choice made by an individual in extreme distress. It removes agency and responsibility from the person who died, failing to recognise the complex factors that may have led to their decision.
- ‘Completed suicide’: This phrase suggests that suicide is a task or goal to be accomplished, which is entirely inappropriate and deeply insensitive. It can also be hurtful to those who have lost loved ones to suicide, as it implies a sense of success or completion, rather than a profound and devastating loss.
- ‘Committed suicide’: This term has legal connotations, linking suicide to a crime. While suicide was historically considered a criminal offense, this is no longer the case in most parts of the world. Using this term reinforces outdated views and contributes to the stigma surrounding mental health and suicide.
Preferred Terminology
Instead of the above terms, it is recommended to use the following:
- ‘Died by suicide’: This phrase accurately reflects that the person’s death was caused by suicide, while acknowledging their agency in the decision. It avoids judgment and provides a neutral and respectful way to describe the cause of death.
- ‘Took their own life’: This alternative similarly acknowledges the individual’s agency while avoiding any implication of success or failure. It emphasises the personal nature of the decision and avoids any language that might contribute to stigma.
- ‘Lost their life to suicide’: This phrasing is particularly suitable when discussing the impact on loved ones, as it emphasises the loss and tragedy of the situation. It acknowledges the pain and grief experienced by those left behind and avoids any language that might minimise their suffering.
Why Language Matters
The language we use around suicide can have a profound impact on individuals, families, and communities. Using respectful and sensitive language helps to:
- Reduce stigma: Stigma prevents people from seeking help and can worsen the pain of those affected by suicide. By using non-judgmental language, we can help to break down these barriers and create a more supportive environment for those who are struggling.
- Promote understanding: Using appropriate language helps to educate others about suicide and its impact. It can help to challenge misconceptions and promote empathy and compassion for those who are affected.
- Support suicide prevention: By avoiding language that blames or judges, we can create a more supportive environment for those struggling with suicidal thoughts. Language that emphasises hope and recovery can encourage people to seek help and find support.
It is imperative that we choose our words carefully when discussing suicide. By using respectful and accurate language, we can help to reduce stigma, promote understanding, and ultimately contribute to suicide prevention efforts. Remember: If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please reach out for help. There are resources available to provide support and guidance. You are not alone.
Additional Considerations
- Focus on the person, not just the suicide: When discussing someone who has died by suicide, remember to talk about their life and who they were as a person, not just their death.
- Avoid sensationalising or romanticising suicide: It’s important to avoid language that might glamorise or glorify suicide, as this can be harmful to vulnerable individuals.
- Be mindful of cultural sensitivities: Different cultures may have different ways of talking about death and suicide. It’s important to be respectful of these differences.
By being mindful of the language we use, we can all play a part in creating a more compassionate and supportive environment for those affected by suicide.
